Master These 5 Salsa Club Social Skills

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Your mission is to showcase your skills both on and off the dance floor. This may require some adjustment – and it may have less to do with your dance frame and more to do with your social skills.

This may not be for you, but feel free to read through it and forward it to some person who could use it.

Get this right, and you could have a magical night of social dancing. Get this wrong, and you may be on the losing end of the “Why Are Girls at the Salsa Club So Rude?” article. Use these tips wisely, my fellow social dancer – or suffer the consequences.

1. Look for Smiling People

It’s really only in the movies where a woman from across the room points to an unsuspecting guy at a nightclub and mouths the words “I want you.” In fact, that’s so far-fetched it’s usually a dream sequence where the guy wakes up holding his pillow in an embarrassing way.

The best place to start your social quest is with people that are:

• Facing the Dance Floor – People will typically position their bodies toward their area of interest.
• Smiling – It’s the polite way to suggest that you are interested in dancing.

Here’s a question: When you walk into a salsa club, where do you look first? The bar? The DJ booth? Your phone?

Try this instead: Scan the room for body language. Who’s looking at the dance floor with anticipation? Who’s tapping their foot to the music? Those are your people.

2. Avoid the Bar Types

If their body language is directed toward the bar, or to a large muscular companion – avert your eyes and move on to another person. Sometimes a Latin club offers a great ambiance, drink specials, or community, yet they may have no interest in dancing.

Almost like being a member of a country club but not owning golf clubs. Some people are just there to socialize.

Accept it and move on, my friend.

The bar types aren’t rude for not wanting to dance. They just came to the wrong venue (in your opinion) for the wrong reasons (also your opinion). Don’t take it personally. There are plenty of people at the club who actually want to dance – focus your energy on finding them.

3. Stay on the Floor

The best body language you can find as a dancer is – well – dancing. Your best chance of finding people like that is on the dance floor. Don’t hesitate to head onto the floor solo and practice your steps or mark time in place to the music.

When the song ends, make eye contact with someone and politely offer your hand.

This is one of the most underrated strategies in salsa club success. The people who stay on the floor dance more. The people who retreat to the sidelines after every song end up standing around wondering why they’re not dancing.

Safe to say, the floor is where the magic happens. The sidelines are where you watch other people experience magic.

4. No Mixed Messages

If you want to avoid a rude reaction, you’ve got to be careful with this one. Keep everything about dancing – your demeanor, your conversation, your body language.

An attempted pickup line, aggressive body contact, or staring at her with your “Hungry Eyes” will put her on the fast track to the “I think my friends are looking for me” escape (as she’s mouthing the word “help!!!” to her friends across the club).

Here’s the reality: The salsa club is a dance environment first. Everything else is secondary. When you treat it like a dance environment, people relax. They trust you. They enjoy dancing with you.

When you treat it like a hunting ground? They can smell that from across the room.

For more on this, read: Eye Contact in Latin Dances: How Much is Too Much?

5. Keep It Classy

So let’s say the person you asked declined your invitation. Remember – much more is revealed about your confidence and character by how you respond to this ego sting.

Average suitors will pout, call the person rude, or worse. That’s not you, nor should it be. Your dance skills give you access to the dance floor, but that doesn’t mean every person you ask has to agree.

It happens. Stay positive and exit with class: “If at any point you change your mind, I’d be honored to dance with you. Enjoy your evening.”

Then you smile, walk away, and ask someone else.

In fact, how you handle rejection says more about you than how you handle acceptance. Anyone can be gracious when they get what they want. The truly confident dancer stays gracious when they don’t.

The Numbers Game

Here’s something experienced social dancers understand that beginners often don’t: Getting declined is part of the game. It’s not failure. It’s statistics.

Even the best dancers at the club don’t get a “yes” from every person they ask. Maybe she’s tired. Maybe he’s waiting for his partner. Maybe they just got off the floor and need water. The reason doesn’t matter.

What matters is that you keep asking.

The dancers who have the best nights are the ones who ask the most people. They don’t take rejection personally. They treat it as information – “not this person, not right now” – and move on to the next opportunity.

Final Thought

When you first started learning to dance, frustration was frequent.

You were learning a skill and asking your body and brain to sing in harmony together. Nevertheless, you stuck with it. The missed steps were part of a bigger process that got you to this point.

In a nightclub, there’s a new level in play. You are asking a person to dance and to move in harmony with you. Just like learning to dance, asking people to dance will go through a similar process – and with equally rewarding results.

The dance floor is waiting. The question is: Are you ready to step onto it?

Related Reading: 21 Social Dancing Challenges to Master